I can certainly see how one would be upset if he or she never got to spend any quality time with his/her significant other because they were too busy riding their bike or going on long runs. Ironman training takes more then just a few hours a week. My training is not even crazy yet and I already am turning down week night happy hours or all-night drink fests on weekends because I am either tired or have an early morning workout.
But what about the situation that Phil and I are in- where BOTH of us are training for the same events. I think there are both positives and negatives to being in a serious relationship with another hard-core athlete. More positives for sure, though!
|cherry blossom 10 miler 2010|
|New Years Eve 2009|
Some of the ways we balance training/racing and being in a normal healthy relationship is by making sure to have non triathlon related dates- like last Friday’s date night. We also go on long bike rides together sometimes- if Phil wants to sprint, he will sprint ahead of me and then I will catch up with him so that we both are getting good workouts (He also will stay in the small ring to get a good workout while we are going at a slower speed then his natural pace). We also go to the pool together sometimes and even though we swim in different lanes, we drive to and from the pool together and eat dinner together when we get home.
|Disney World Summer 2009|
Some people have asked me if it upsets me that Phil and I are doing all of the same races and therefor Phil is never there to just be my cheerleader. No, it doesn’t. His wave (30-34 year old men…Phil is 30 in triathlon years!) starts ahead of mine so Phil will be at the finish line in time to cheer me through the finish. And as far as Ironman Cozumel goes since everyone starts at the same time- I’m sure I’ll see Phil out on the course since it is 3 bike loops and 3 run loops and we will scream some encouragement to the other maybe even get in a high five. And I know he will be at the finish line cheering me in. Also, knowing that he is out there on the course dealing with the same high winds, or hot sunshine is comforting.
|Photobooth on the boardwalk summer 2009|
I am really excited to share all of my ups and downs this season with Phil and I think the fact that we both are first-timers training for this huge race will bring us closer together. The thought of us both being on the other side of the IM finish line with our medals on makes me smile. There is no one in the world I would rather share that with.
Any advice for us as we train for Ironman on how to keep things fun and still maintain our awesome relationship?
How does training affect your relationship? If single, would you want to date an athlete like yourself?